Nick ViallwantsThe Bachelorette(well, one of them, anyway) to remember that the show is about the journey to love — not necessarily about who comes out on top.
“I honestly think Rachel, I mean, she seems great, but I think she’s prioritizing all the wrong things right now,” Viall told PEOPLE Every Day host Janine Rubenstein.
Viall, who was featured as a contestant on seasons 10 and 11 ofThe Bachelorette, season 3 ofBachelor in Paradise,and starred in season 21 ofThe Bachelor, said that Recchia’s focus onLogan admitting he was more interested in Windey in this week’s episodeshows the series' current run is one of the “more realistic seasons as it relates to, like, modern dating.”
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“You think about: You go on dating apps and you’re, you’re swiping right [to indicate interest]. And every time you swipe right and you don’t get an immediate match, there’s this sense of rejection,” Viall said. “And oftentimes we will focus on the rejection rather than the connections that we’re making. And it seems like that’s what Rachel is focused on.”
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Viall also told Janine Rubenstein that he thinks Rachel would benefit from viewing rejections as “clarity, rather than disappointment,” given how the season has turned out so far.
“At the end of the day, this is not a popularity contest,” Viall said. “This is not about finding 10 guys that you’re into or five guys you’re into. It’s still about finding one person.”
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“I think we have to remember that, like, this show is not about to see who can be the most popular, who can get the most ‘swipe rights’ on a dating app,” he added. “It’s about who you can find love with, with just a single person.”
Viall also spoke about his upcoming bookDon’t Text Your Ex Happy Birthday, which he said he started writing during the pandemic at the encouragement of his editor. It was born from Viall’s weekly dating advice sessions he holds on hisInstagram pageon Sundays.
The advice in the title stems from the fact that, if you do reach out to an ex on the birthday, it’s actually “never to be nice,” Viall said.
“It’s usually to remind them that you’re still there,” Viall continued. “Either if you broke up with them, you just wanna say, Hey, I’m still here. I want you to think about me. It’s a goal to try to like get back in and have a conversation. It’s almost never really intended for what people say it is, especially shortly after breakup.”
“I mean, listen, if you wanna text your ex five years after you broke up, because you’ve developed some sort of friendship, you know, fine,” he added. “But I think shortly after a breakup, it’s, uh, usually an excuse to talk to them. And it’s not really intended for the genuine happy birthday.”
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source: people.com
